Greetings, Miss Manners Someone I’ve known for a long time was just taken into custody and accused of heinous crimes. We were friendly acquaintances, not necessarily close friends, in my opinion. This person probably won’t be able to walk free for many years, if at all.
I would like to write a letter to them when they are incarcerated. In such a circumstance, what would be suitable to say? Hello, how are you? looks excessively feisty and superficial for the situation. HOW ARE YOU ABLE TO DO THAT? would undoubtedly be impolite. What makes sense?
PERSONAL READER: I was sad to learn of your predicament. I hope you’re doing okay given the situation.
Miss Manners praises you for wanting to get in touch with this alleged criminal. However, the knowledge that they are unlikely to return to society very soon may give you more confidence.
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