Greetings, Abby I love animals. Even though I adore all breeds, I dislike dogs because of their general chaos, odor, fur, jumping, and slobbering. There are numerous dogs, both large and small, in my spouse’s family. The family desires that they be not trained. They consider jumping or climbing on a guest’s lap to be adorable. They think it’s a strategy to get favor. The furniture smells terrible since their dogs are permitted on it. While we are at the dinner table, they also feed them.
I am aware that people love and care for their pets as if they were family, so I wouldn’t expect them to alter their behavior for me. However, I also fail to see why I should expose myself to something repulsive.
How do I politely let them know that I don’t feel comfortable dining or staying at their house? I’ve discovered that telling someone you don’t like dogs is the easiest way to start a quarrel. (Even though I own a cat, I would never consider taking her out in public or to someone’s house.) Smoking is permitted in my in-laws’ house as well. I don’t smoke. I’m not good with foul scents. Do you have any recommendations? — IN THE FLORIDA DOGHOUSE
DEAR DOGHOUSE: Yes, I do. Engage your dog-loving in-laws in frank conversation. I promise that if you tell them exactly what you wrote to me, you won’t have to endure their hospitality ever again. The issue has been resolved.
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Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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