Greetings, Abby Herb, often known as Mr. Cheapo, my husband’s best buddy, is getting married for the third time. He’s organizing the wedding and recommending that guests cover the cost of their meals. Herb is putting himself at risk for failure once more, I informed my husband. (In addition, he is having his fiancé sign a prenuptial agreement, just like he did with his previous two spouses.) I’m inconsolable at the mere thought. What would his fiancé think when people apologize or forget to bring a gift? Attendees also have expenses.
I’m prepared to disregard my husband’s recommendation that we not teach this man wedding etiquette. Other than that, Herb is a really kind and well-behaved boy. I am positive that his cheapness ended his second marriage and a relationship after that. Before leaving, both women blasted me about it in great detail. Shall I teach Herb? — Observes what is written on the wall.
DEAR SEES: Based on your description of Herb, it appears that his actions are not the result of ignorance. If you want to be helpful, discreetly recommend to his fiancée that she have her own lawyer evaluate the prenuptial agreement when he gives it to her in order to prevent any surprises later on (or she may hand him one of her own).
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Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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