Greetings, Abby I’ve been married for over two decades. You got it right. When my husband returned home this afternoon, he informed me that our neighbors had asked him to join them for supper as a token of appreciation for his assistance with their yard work yesterday. Today was my day off, although normally I work in the afternoon. He replied, “No,” when I asked if I was included. Only me! I felt horrible, but I kept it to myself.
After a few hours, my husband returned home and started discussing their evening with our adult son as like I hadn’t been there. He said, “I KNEW you would somehow make it my fault that you didn’t come,” in response to my question about why he hadn’t told them I was home and would have attended. I informed him that he was following along while his wife was left behind, which didn’t seem proper. Am I going overboard? MRS. LEFT OUT
Greetings, Mrs. Left Out: It was improper of your neighbors to allow your spouse out while keeping you out. However, what transpired after that makes me question whether there is a deeper issue in your marriage. (I knew that you would blame me, etc.) You and your spouse should talk to a marriage and family therapist about this if it’s a sign of something more serious. You can be referred by your physician or health insurance provider.
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Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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