Greetings, Miss Manners I’m one of several women that currently reside in the United States. They differ in their citizenship status.
One of our women hails from a region of the world that is currently engulfed in war. She has frequently discussed the horrific slaughter and death toll, particularly among the children.
Though I’m not really sure what is suitable, I would like to acknowledge her pain and despair. A condolence card doesn’t seem suitable because I don’t think she lost any family members or individuals she knew intimately. Furthermore, I’m positive that our political philosophies are considerably different, so attempting to express sympathy by getting into a political debate won’t help.
When she talks about the loss of innocence, she is in a lot of anguish. What would be a good way to let her know I care? Although we are friends, I haven’t yet built a solid relationship with this woman.
PERSONAL READER: Miss Manners assures you that you can feel compassion for this woman’s suffering without judging its cause. This is terrible. If she tries to get you to talk politics further, all you need to say is “I’m so sorry,” as often as you need to and with more emphasis.
(Questions can be sent to Miss Manners via email at [email protected], her website at www.missmanners.com, or by mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)
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